Grammy-winning singer and actress Mýa offers a candid reflection on why marriage and children were never priorities in her life. In a recent episode of the Hot & Bothered podcast, hosted by Melyssa Ford, she explored how deeply her early experiences shaped her outlook.
Childhood Realizations and Escaping Expectations
“It’s not even my focus, and it never has been,” Mýa said plainly, when asked whether she had ever desired marriage or parenthood. She credits much of her viewpoint to what she observed growing up. “My mother is an independent thinker. I’ve witnessed a divorce between my parents. I’ve witnessed all kinds of things,” she explained.
Those early observations left a lasting impression. Mýa revealed, “The white wedding dress … I was very fearful of those things,” adding, “I looked elsewhere and probably escaped too much in my work.” She noted that constant travel and demanding schedules in her career would have made traditional relationships difficult. “If I have to be gone 95% of the time … I also can’t show up properly for my significant other,” she said.
Mya Embracing Her Own Path
Rather than chasing societal norms, Mýa chose creative and personal fulfillment. She said she had to “strip a lot of things that are expected of me on a specific timeline for the society … I’m talking about marriage. I’m talking about kids.” And though some might assume something is wrong if a woman doesn’t follow that path, Mýa stated plainly: “But did I desire it? No, not with what I’ve witnessed.”
Still, she remains open—but unhurried. “Not to say it’s not possible, and I’m not open to it,” Mýa clarified. “I’m open to all things, but right now, I’m on a specific assignment. That’s all.” Reflecting on familial ties, she remarked, “What is that feeling that I get with puppies? Is that going to happen with babies for me? … But I have godchildren, I have nieces, I have nephews … lots of children in my life.